I have been speaking to a few people lately and we all have come to a consensus that we are "falling out of friend". Some people ~far and in between~ have friendship relationships for a life time and then there children become friends to bring another generation into the equation. That is beautiful, however not common.
In today's society it such a doggy dog eat world out here that you can not find a fellow brother or sister to stand by you in the good and the bad of times. You see, to me friendship isn't necessarily the definition of: what can you do for me or what have you done for me… Friend to me is a person that is there in mind and spirit (mentally as well as physically). A person who can be honest with you and you the same with them. Someone that will hold you high when you are doing your best and will be there to humble you when you are becoming a nuisance. You can lean on for advise, conversation, laughter or a cry when need be. That is emotional friendship, if you are blessed to have someone in your corner in this day and time that is a little ok financially and is able to help out monetarily that is great also.... but by no means does this make a person a better friend. There shouldn’t be brownie points for friend with benefits.. Sometimes emotion is just as important if not more important then monetary. Don’t be a user or "count your blessings". It is a give and take relationship.. Not malice, jealous, envy or back stabbing.
We should help one another to get to that next level in life. It is hard out here and if we don’t look out for one another we will all just reach our demise even faster then expected. It is true we out grow one another, but we could possibly just be growing out of our current relationship with each other and now its time to move on to another aspect of each others lives. Don’t believe someone is willing to give more of themselves then you are willing to give of your self. A friend can be and a lot of times are closer to you then your own family members.
Lets appreciate each other more and be there for one another more. Life is hard and at this rate not getting any easier. Any feed back .. positively :~)
Great post! I think we live in such a me me me society, that a lot of folks have forgotten what it's like to be a friend. I know have been guilty of that and have been re-schooled...by my friends. LOL Sometimes you do honestly grow apart, other times you have in your mind that your friendship at the age of 30 will be the same way that it was at the age of 15 and that's not the case. I believe that in order to keep a friendship you need to accept the changes that go along with it and learn to adjust and some people can't do that or they have a very hard time doing that. I'm glad to say that the majority of my friends are people that I literally grew up with, who have been there for me when I am at my best and at my worst and I the same for them. In order to build our people up, we need to strengthen not only our family ties, but our friendship ties as well.
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